So we all agree that some of us are only made of contradictions.
And love and some tea.
Throw in a chocolate cake will ya please.
One of those contradictions I am contemplating on these days is my need to be alone versus my need for people.
I’ve been a lot more alone than usual this past year. We moved to a new country for a while and in my quest to be with ‘my person’, I also found time. A large amount of it.
Circumstances would have it that I was alone a lot , and that was fine for a while.
I also found out that my moods vary between needing people and being drained by them whenever I was with them.
While I’ve always been more towards being by myself, now I found that I didn’t want to be by myself too much, nor did I want to be around other people for more than a few hours.
I am of the breed of people who must pour every inch of themselves into their relationships so a few hours with people I like would mean , I am depleted of any energy for myself.
Owing to age and a hard earned capacity for self-preservation, I now pace my time between social interactions, I say no, I don’t go places I do not fancy.
I am also now good at timing, when making plans, I know when I need to be home , in my PJs, with tea and a book, in bed before I have to carry around a headache, feeling completely dull and gloomy.
It’s nice however to be married to someone who recognizes this about me and is usually sympathetic about making plans. Darling is of the breed of people who has zero need for recharging , who can go from one social gathering to another, spend days walking and seeing places without tiring himself out and can also fall asleep in a heartbeat.
But he would nudge me out of the house if I’ve been cooped up inside too long, but he would never drag me around if I was miserable.
I am also a bit spoilt that way.
Do you suffer from any ?